I don’t agree at all. Our past hurts have everything to do with our “blossom”. How can it not? I was brutally attacked since birth and my blossom had everything in it it…….pain, blood, my questions of why, my sureness of who I was born that went against everything else I encountered. I was challenged, I met it head on. I am not you and I will not – be you. So no, my blossom was a sum of so many things. Pain, sorrow, wisdom from I don’t where, intuition, compassion from my own soul and I really come against anyone telling me that the hurts dont teach because they do. It all goes to the wheat flour where everything is beaten down and ground into powder. There is every hint of ………past hurts in the mix. How can there not be? At the same time there is everything in the mix also that is what I came into this world with and that is – something not from this world. I do have my own magic. But I embrace what this world has to offer. I feel it, embrace it. But in the end, I decide what is what.
I think you are entirely right that so much of our opening comes through the pain we’ve experienced and how we respond to it. It is a part of us and ultimately adds to the complex beauty of who we are and who we become. But, in my experience, there is another thing that happens: at a certain point, all of that pain, all of those wounds, all of that history… just washes away. And, surprisingly, we discover that heart has been open and unwounded all along. Maybe that makes sense, or maybe not. Something to think about though. Love, Ivan